Dear Abby: I had a relationship with a man I met at work. It took me six months to decide on an intimate relationship with him, and next month will be a year. Things are going great. The only thing is that he has a wife and children. (Children about my age.)
I am young, beautiful and I know I deserve more. But I fall in love with this man and can’t resist our hot sex life. He was doing to me things I had never felt before. We see each other often and I like his company.
This is the first time I’ve ever been a “sideline” and I’m worried that the time we spend together is limited and I can only call at certain hours. I know he likes me, but my feelings for him are much stronger.
How do I resist the urge to be around him or just talk on the phone? Should I change jobs to start a new beginning, or think about a relationship with someone who shouldn’t be a secret? How can I end this if all the fibers of my being I want to stay? – HOUSEWIFE IN MASS
Dear hostess: This case is not going anywhere, so sharpen your survival instincts. Wake up and realize that this can continue until he decides to exchange you for a younger, fresher “side part” that he can impress with his skill. I’m willing to bet you’re not the first in it and not the last.
Throwing this person away won’t be completely painless, but still make it a cold turkey. You already know how. And if you feel generous waving goodbye, thank him for the many valuable lessons he has taught you because you intend to share them with young, stronger, lonely men. Believe me, there are many of them.
Dear Abby: I am pregnant with my second child. My first child is a girl, and the child I am expecting is also a child. A few months ago, my husband’s cousin gave birth to a baby girl. The child had a heart defect, which, unfortunately, cannot be eliminated. She died four days after birth. My heart was broken not only for this girl but also for her parents. I can’t imagine what it would be like to lose my child.
Although I shared the good news with close relatives, I did not share it on social media out of respect for my husband’s cousin. I’m torn because it’s a happy time in my life and I’d love to share my news, but I’m worried they’ll be insensitive. I confided my problems to several friends. They shared about how I should proceed, so I hope you can offer recommendations. – FEEL HER LOSS IN NEW YORK
Dear, feeling her loss: Sooner or later your husband’s cousin and her husband will find out about your pregnancy if they don’t already know. It would be good to let them hear about it directly from you and not through posting on social media. After you talk to them, you can share the good news of the upcoming arrival for all your friends.
Written by “Dear Abby” by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or mailbox 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.